CQB-THE REALITY

 

Martial arts classes are great if you want a life long commitment and are willing to put the time and study into an art.  Hopefully you find a qualified instructor.  Most women want a viable means of self defense that is easily obtainable in a class or two.  First off, let's get rid of the fantasy.  You cannot learn a technique in a matter of minutes.  You may know what you want to do, but without many hrs. of training, you will not respond correctly in the chaos of an attack.  Our self defense classes are strategically designed around the natural human response factor.  It takes many years to develop the instinct to attack the attacker.  We teach methods of egress and avoidance.  You don't want to fight rounds with the attacker, you want to escape.  Joint locks and throws are flashy but they rarely work on a much stronger and aggressive adversary.  They require many hrs. and sometimes years of practice.  We will teach you a simple means of distraction and evasion.  If you are inferior in strength, you must be superior in surprise.  We will teach you to fight as unfairly as you are willing to fight.  Scratching eyes, clawing, kicking shins, even biting.  You must do whatever it takes to escape. 

 

a small women can over power her attacker

THE GOAL IS EVASION NOT FIGHTING ROUNDS

WHILE BEING GRABBED SHE LOWERS HER CENTER

SHE BENDS FOREWARD AND BEGINS TO TWIST

WOMEN ARE USUALLY GRABBED FROM BEHIND

UNABLE TO BREAK FREE, IT IS EASY TO USE LEVERAGE TO THROW THE ATTACKER TO THE GROUND AND ESCAPE

AS THE ATTACKER IS PULLED FOREWARD

SHE CAN EASILY TAKE HIS BALANCE

A WOMEN WILL USUALLY BE LIFTED OR THROWN DOWN

WE TEACH EASY AND EFFECTIVE GROUND TECHNIQUES

 

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MTYHS ABOUT SELF DEFENSE 

IF I TAKE A SELF DEFENSE COURSE, I WILL KEEP MYSELF SAFE.

     FALSE- taking self defense is great but just the course will not keep you safe.  The most important self defense is common sense.  Second, the techniques you are shown are not always applicable to real life and can get you hurt because they do not work.

 

I WILL IMPROVE MY SELF ESTEEM WITH SELF DEFENSE LESSONS.

     FALSE- self defense alone will not make you feel better about yourself, however, succeeding at something, like self defense lessons will.  Taking a class to make yourself feel safe and good about yourself is the wrong reason.  Taking a self defense class for the sake of staying safe is the right reason.  You must practice the moves.  If you feel good just because you sat through an hour of class, this will get you hurt.  DO NOT WALK AWAY WITH FALSE SECURITY BECAUSE SOMEONE TOLD YOU YOUR NEW KNOWLEDGE WILL MAKE YOU INVINCIBLE.

 

MY BOYFRIEND IS A JERK, I WILL TAKE A SELF DEFENSE CLASS SO I CAN HURT HIM AND TEACH HIM A LESSON AND HE WILL TREAT ME BETTER.

     FALSE – self defense is to help you in times of peril, not to pick fights or get even.

 

I SAT THROUGH A SELF DEFENSE CLASS AND FEEL THAT I CAN ADEQUATELY DEFEND MYSELF FROM MOST ANY THREAT.

     FALSE – just because you sat through a class does not mean you have the skill or experience to handle any situation.  First you must ensure that the knowledge and methods covered were correct and applicable to real life and second you must practice for a long time before you can hope to utilize any of this knowledge.

 

THE SELF DEFENSE INSTRUCTOR WAS REALLY IMPRESSIVE BOTH PHYSICALLY AND VERBALLY.  HE MUST REALLY KNOW WHAT HE IS TALKING ABOUT.

     FALSE- remember self defense and martial arts in general today are big business.  If you pay money you want to walk away feeling you received a good value for your money.  Instructors give techniques that seem to work.  They tell you interesting stories and “sell” you a package of self worth, ego, and high expectations.  They must make you walk away totally satisfied.  The truth is not always easy to accept.  They do not tell you that it takes many years to be affective in battle.  They do not scare you with the facts such as if you try a technique and it fails, you may lose your life.

 

I LEARNED HOW TO BREAK SOMEONE’S KNEE WITH A QUICK AND EASY KICK MOVE.  WE ALSO LEARNED HOW TO DRIVE SOMEONE’S NOSE BONE INTO THEIR BRAIN AND KILL THEM.  IF SOMEONE MESSES WITH ME, IT ONLY TAKES A FEW POUNDS OF PRESSURE TO DISABLE THEM, OR KILL THEM IF I WANT TO.

     FALSE-  this is the most dangerous of all the propaganda spread by the self defense experts.  It’s very difficult for trained fighters to break someone’s knee, it is nearly impossible due to anatomy to drive a nose bone into the brain, and it most definitely takes more than a few pounds of pressure to break someone’s bones.  This type of hype only gives the participant a false sense of security and will prove fatal if tried.  It encourages escalation of the threat instead of defusing it.  It attacks your ego and makes you look for a fight so you can try out your new power. 

 

 

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When looking for good self defense, first ask the instructor how much real life experience he has.  They usually say they train to fight so they don’t have to and list all the awards and certificates they have.  That’s all fine and well but when it comes down to your life , don’t you want to defend yourself with something that has been proven rather than what someone who has never used tell you will work?    Use your common sense to sort through the sales pitch and see what they have to gain by telling you what they are trying to sell you.   A good instructor will tailor  moves to the individual and not make the whole class, regardless of shape, size, or power do the same thing.  Lastly, don’t forget about the law.  Many techniques these weekend warriors are pushing will get into court and into jail quicker than you would think.  Remember the law only allows enough force to be used to stop the threat.  Once the threat is over you cannot proceed to hurt the attacker.   Remember, the law states that you must choose to run from trouble first, only after you have exhausted all possible egress can you defend yourself.   You must be able to convince the judge or jury, or at least the officer that you were in “immediate danger of great bodily harm, disfigurement, or death”.     The country has become so lazy that everyone wants to do everything and have everything but they are not willing to put the work in to accomplish their goals.   If you are serious about self defense and the defense of your loved ones, you must be willing to make the commitment and practice “real” techniques.  You must be willing to accept that you may suffer losses in the battle and you may be permanently injured or handicapped.  The key is to accept this but train to greatly improve your chances of avoiding it.   Crimes such as rape and spouse abuse do not just affect you for the moment, they affect you for your entire life.  The mental damage is eternal in most cases.   Training can greatly increase your chances of coming through such an incident victoriously or if you are a victim, you will be able to deal with it and get on with your life.  

 

Before enrolling in a self defense class, ask yourself a few questions.

*am I willing to practice what I am taught?

*do I have the mental fortitude to carry out what I am practicing?

*what is my level of physical conditioning?

*what is my mental health like?

*if I did hurt someone, how would I feel after the incident?

*would I be able to hurt someone without feeling guilty?

*would I freeze if I had to defend myself?

*what is my character, a fighter, submissive, quarrelsome, stubborn, troublemaker?

*are the techniques being offered right for me?’

*can I easily understand why I need self defense?

*do I just want to be a bully or truly desire a means to defend myself?

*can I accept the consequences for my actions?

 

Don’t put the alarm system in after you have been robbed. 

Don’t get insurance after the accident.